Blog: June 2015

Sunday, June 28


A year ago, 15-year-old Yormeliz arrived in Camden from Puerto Rico, faced with a difficult transition. It must have felt like rowing a boat upstream: new high school, new friends, a new city, a new culture.

Yormeliz confronted her fears one by one, paddling onward, and often against the current.

There was the language barrier: stepping into classes taught in English when your primary language is Spanish would be daunting for any of us. Her entrance exam for high school revealed a 3rd-grade reading level. Yormeliz studied with vigor, attained a 3.8 GPA last year, and now reads at a 9th-grade level.

The next challenge was participating in the UrbanTrekker Program, bringing a whole different set of firsts: sleeping in a tent in the wilderness, canoeing in the Pine Barrens, cooking on a Coleman stove, and catching lobsters in Maine. You guessed it: Yormeliz rose to each occasion, and so grew as a person.

And she’s just getting started!

This July, Yormeliz will paddle 52 miles along the Delaware River—from Trenton to Wilmington—to enable 100 of her Camden peers to work this summer at UrbanPromise.

Yormeliz is paddling for her peers.

She isn’t daunted by the fundraising goal of $80,000, which will enable UrbanPromise to remain Camden’s largest employer of teens. Helping to get her friends off the streets and employed in full-time, 8-week jobs as counsellors, coaches, and mentors for younger children in our UrbanPromise summer camps is a challenge she’s willing to embrace.

“When an experience comes up,” Yormeliz says, “and I catch it in my eyes, I have to do it! I must take every opportunity that is offered to me. It’s important for kids like me to have jobs. Paddling for a few days is the least I can do.”

Will you support Yormeliz in her journey?  Every dollar pledged towards Yormeliz’s paddle on the Delaware goes directly to employing teens this summer.

And for every $50 donated, UrbanPromise can keep a teen on payroll for a day, engaging those teens in programs that teach leadership skills, provide academic enrichment, and foster spiritual and social support.

Let’s applaud Yormeliz for her courageous spirit, her tenacity, and her commitment to her city. Let’s tell all our teens that we value their willingness to work. Please help UrbanPromise recognize their diligence with employment this summer.

Yormeliz looks forward to hearing from you!


Bruce Main

PS: Did I tell you that Yormeliz wants to go to medical school and become a cardiologist? How’s that for an audacious dream? I believe she’ll do it.


Tuesday, June 2

“You’re a lost cause!”

Not exactly an encouraging start, yet that was the startling first line of Cafee’s college application essay. His second line was even more self-deprecating:

“Nobody believes you’re going to make it!”

I’m sure the Admissions staff member at the university did a double take when reading this discouraging introduction.  

“Why do you even try? Stop playing, you’re going to end up right back on the block with us.”

Then Cafee gave the reader a glimpse of his daily struggle. 

“These are just a few of the things I hear on a daily basis. It is hard to keep my head up in this life storm, but I must keep going. I try to show that having values and goals does not make me a weak punk in this city. I believe, in order for me to make it, I have to be ‘deaf to the hood’, strong-minded, and persistent at doing what it takes to achieve my goals.”

When I read Cafee’s college application, I was reminded of a story about Saint Francis. Early in his career Francis lived with a group of his ecclesiastical brothers in the rural outskirts of the small Italian town of Assisi.  Living simple and pious lives, the young men demonstrated compassion for the impoverished and tried to make every encounter a testimony of Christ’s love. Occasionally Francis would venture into Assisi.

Whenever he journeyed into 

town, Francis looked for a beggar to accompany him. 

“When we arrive at the gates of the city,” Francis confided to the beggar, “I will need you to whisper in my ear, ‘Francis, you are a beloved child of God. You are a child of heaven and precious in God’s sight.’”

Perplexed, the beggar asked, “For what reason, Francis?” 

Francis replied, “My father is abusive.  If I meet him in the streets, he will hurl the worst insults and curse me out!”

“And, Brother Francis, when should I stop whispering in your ear?”

“Don’t stop saying it until I believe it again,” he replied. 

Fortunately, Cafee is surrounded by the UrbanPromise community—a  chorus of adults who whisper in his ear, every day (sometimes every hour)—that he is a child of God, that he has the intellect, the ability, and the promise to do great things with his life.

And, because you care, you are part of our chorus. You are part of this community.

You may not be teaching in our classrooms or driving one of our vans. You may not be tutoring at an afterschool program, and you’re probably not camping with the kids on Trekker trips or helping build boats. But you must realize you are part of the chorus. You are one of the voices that remind our child

ren that they, too, are
precious children of God.

Every time you send a gift, say a prayer, write a note of affirmation, you are delivering a new message to our youth.

And on the wings of that chorus, 100% of the youth in our programs are graduating from high school—compared with only 55% from our public schools and like Cafee, 93% of our graduates are going on to college.

So I’m offering you a unique opportunity to join that collective, affirming voice. Many graduating seniors are preparing for college, and many of them aren’t sure they will make it. But through staff counseling, tutoring, SAT prep classes, assistance with completing the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) forms, and college visits, we’re encouraging our graduating seniors to succeed.

Please support our College Readiness Program!  For just $19 you can underwrite an SAT prep class for a student, $54 covers the costs for college applications for a student, or $520 covers a 4-week summer college readiness class for 5 students. Please review the pledge card to see how you can help.

Let’s grow that whisper to a communal shout: Cafee, you are a child of God, capable of great things!

Bruce Main


P.S. I hope you will join me in supporting our high school students and make a donation!


Tuesday, June 2












Last year, when the Chicago Bears came to town to play the Philadelphia Eagles, celebrated Bears cornerback Charles Tillman wasn’t on the field for the pregame warm-up.

Instead, injured and not required to even be on the East Coast, Tillman was at Ruth’s Chris Steak House with a group of students from Camden’s UrbanPromise school. The evening was about more than a good steak. It was important to Tillman that the teens place cloth napkins on their laps and start with the outermost fork.

“There are stereotypes about Camden, and my goal is to have these kids prove them wrong,” he says. “I’m trying to give them culture so when someone looks at them and doubts them, they can say, ‘I may be from Camden, but I’ve been in nice places. Don’t look down on me.’”

Tillman, 34, and his wife Jackie have been supporters of UrbanPromise since 2007, when Jackie saw Diane Sawyer’s 20/20 special “Waiting on the World to Change,” which highlighted the organization.

“My wife was hooked,” Tillman says. “She told me about what she saw and how she felt we could do something about it. We could help them out, be a part of this. The next day we called and said, ‘What can we do?’”

The Tillmans sponsor UrbanPromise students, assisting with tuition and covering education-related costs even after their beneficiaries head off to college. Their hands-on work with the school has brought them to Camden several times over the past few years. Their most recent visit was at the beginning of this year, when the couple spent time in the city and hosted a breakfast with students.

It may seem strange that Tillman – an Army brat who attended 11 schools all over the world before college at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette – would champion staying in one place, but that’s his one hope for many of UrbanPromise’s students.

“One of the best things that happens is kids who’ve been there since they were 2 or 3 grow up, graduate and end up coming back to work for UrbanPromise,” Tillman says. “This cycle is really what Jackie and I are drawn to and what we want to support. My thought process is if you can get a kid early enough – pull them into your life and teach them leadership, respect and hard work, that’s the recipe. Those kids go out and learn, then come back and teach. They’re telling students, ‘Hey, I stuck to the plan, stayed on the path, and now I have a degree and I’m the vice principal.’ It takes time, but that’s how things get better.”

The faculty at UrbanPromise is one of the things Tillman finds most impressive about the school, and he hopes to see the model replicated in as many cities as possible.

“After coming to Camden, seeing the community and meeting the students, I can say UrbanPromise isn’t like any other school I’ve ever seen,” he says. “It’s so much more than a job for these teachers. They choose to be here because they want to be, because they love these kids and are passionate about what they do. Some of them left really high-powered positions to come and teach in Camden, where they probably make way less money. I think these kids know that, and I think that helps them understand how much they matter.”

Tillman, drafted by the Bears in 2003, recently signed a one-year deal with the Carolina Panthers after being plagued by injury during the past two seasons.

In his 12 seasons with the Bears, the 6-foot-5-inch defenseman has played in two Pro Bowls and was first-team All-Pro in 2012. That’s no surprise, considering he holds the league record for most fumbles forced in a single game (four, against the Tennessee Titans in 2012). He also owns the Bears’ franchise records for most defensive touchdowns, most interception-return touchdowns and most interceptions by a cornerback.

More meaningful to Tillman than his player’s stats are the awards and recognition he’s received for his work in the community. The NFL standout has long been involved in philanthropic efforts. Since 2005, his Cornerstone Foundation has been working to improve the lives of chronically ill children in Chicago. The Tillmans’ dedication to that cause became even more poignant in 2008, when their 3-month-old daughter Tiana was diagnosed with cardiomyopathy and received a heart transplant. In 2013, Tillman’s work for his community, and communities like Camden, earned him the Walter Payton NFL Man of the Year award, for which he’d been nominated in 2007 and 2011.

Despite the accolades, Tillman remains humble. His goal is simple: he wants to use his personal experience to help kids find a path to success.

“I just try to have some kind of positive influence,” he says. “I was blessed and fortunate to have both parents in my house growing up, and they taught me manners and respect. I traveled and got to know other cultures. I had a great life, and I want all other kids to have that. I don’t have to know you to care about you. I want you to succeed just like I want my own kids to succeed.”

Tillman attributes his attitude of commitment and perseverance to a college football coach who became one of his earliest mentors.

“Our coach would always say, ‘Football is the game of life,’ and at the time I didn’t know what the hell he meant,” Tillman says. “We probably won six games my entire college football career. We had guys who quit, because they couldn’t take losing. The coach would say, ‘Let’s say you’re in construction and you get laid off; your kids don’t care that you lost your job – they want to eat. You gonna quit on your team? You gonna quit on your family?’ That’s when I thought, ‘Damn, this really is the game of life.’”

Now when Tillman meets with student groups, he says the conversation typically begins with questions about his football career and with young people asking how they too can make it to the NFL. He’s unflinchingly honest with his audience and manages to impart life lessons while speaking about the game.

“I’m real with them,” he says. “I say, ‘I was your age once. I liked to go out and party and kick it, but I knew when to grow up.’ I talk about decisions and consequences, and I make no bones about how hard it was to get where I am. If you’ve got 1.2 million high school kids in the U.S., only about 79 of them are going to make it to the league every year. It’s like walking through the rainforest without any rain touching you. It’s not impossible, but it’s hard. If you want to succeed at anything, you have to do the work. Sometimes you’ll fail, but you can’t be discouraged by failure. You have to get up and keep working. If you work hard early in life and pay that price, the reward is sweeter in the end.”

It’s a message he’s shared with the students at UrbanPromise, who continue to impress Tillman every time he visits.

“There are high school seniors building an airplane,” he says. “They’re working with retired airline pilots. The 10th graders are building canoes. Teenagers from the poorest city in the country are building airplanes and boats, getting ready for college and becoming really incredible people at the same time. I feel blessed that I get to do my part and help these students and their families, but this not about what I’m doing. This is about what Camden is doing.”

By Kate Morgan
Photography by David Michael Howarth
SJ Magazine

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